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Top 5 Signs That Tell You She’s Not Interested

Make that “100 percent not interested”. She feels nothing for you. None. Zero. Zilch. She never did, and she never will. These are five foolproof ways that a girl may be using to tell you to back off and leave her alone.

5. She avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. She’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.

4. She does not appear to be interested in the things you say. She lets you do all the talking. Her replies are simply “yes”, “no”, or more frequently, “uh-huh”.

3. She ignores your calls and messages.

2. She makes sure you are aware that she is seeing other guys.

And the number one sign…

She tells you straight to your face that she’s not interested in you, and backs it up with facts and reasons, letting you know exactly where you fall short (because you asked).

Jesus! What more can a girl do?

Okay I’m aware that I’m probably sounding a little bitchy right now. But frankly, the only thing that’s more annoying than a guy that wouldn’t stop going after a girl who’s clearly not interested, is a guy who wrongly assumes that she is.

Read the signs. Quit finding other reasons for her behaviour. Please.

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jupilier
14 comments

does, ” I got a headache” count ?
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Posted January 10, 2007 at 8:54 pm
Huimei
11 comments

*laughs and nod in agreement* lol. I can totally relate to sign number 2. haha. sometimes i just hope that guys can be a little smarter. opps.
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Posted January 10, 2007 at 9:36 pm
Veron
3439 comments

jupilier: It probably does. That’s always a good excuse isn’t it?
Huimei: Maybe that’s the reason why we’re not interested in the first place! Oops! *hides from the lightning strike*
My blog entry is actually targeted at a few specific people I know. *hides from lightning again*
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Posted January 10, 2007 at 9:43 pm
foldedhearts
1 comment

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Posted January 10, 2007 at 9:47 pm
lostin
2 comments

polite call:
Hey! I hope you gals have nothing against guys, why not do a post like “5 things Singapore gals like about local guys”? You know, just to boost the morale of Sg guys to set them going.
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Posted January 10, 2007 at 10:59 pm
Huimei
11 comments

Hah! I could sense that the post was meant to target at someone. lol. As bad as I might seems to be (I’m not that evil), I think it would be rather hard to come up with the “5 things Singapore gals like about local guys”.
I do know of some really nice guys. But ask me what’s so great about them? I couldn’t figure out either.
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Posted January 10, 2007 at 11:51 pm
Veron
3439 comments

I shall reserve my comments for now. But anyway, would someone comply with his request please?
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 12:08 am
DK
36 comments

Allow me to defend the guys.
There are some gals who like guys that keep trying and never gives up. That why you see some guys who never gives up even ganna rejected again and again. Because we don’t know if you are that type or not.
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 1:26 am
chillycraps
42 comments

I think point number 1 is enough.
Just ask the guy to stop wasting everyone’s time and move on with life.
This kind of pestering pestering very irritating!
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 7:06 am
mervkwok
38 comments

Hehe forgive my kind. Most of us tend to be boneheaded when it comes to your species. It’s the hormones I tell you. Damn the hormones! :P
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 8:23 am
Jin Xian
2 comments

oooh yes its the hormones.
*shakes head*
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 8:32 am
lyz

i tnk no. 5 may not be that accurate?
Cos sometimes if a person secretly likes someone especially for a more inhibited and reserved person (for some guys too), she/he tend to avoid eye contact with him/her. But if he/she(the person being liked) looks away, then she/he(the person liking) would steal glances at him/her.
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 9:57 am
Veron
3439 comments

DK: I think for the persistence to pay off, there has to be at least a minute amount of interest on the girl’s part to start with in the first place!
Like I said, the girl feels absolutely nothing for the guy. There’s no attraction there. She doesn’t feel the spark. Persistence is simply a waste of time and effort on both parties.
Just my two cents.
chillycraps: Absolutely! But some guys may think that when the girls ask them to give up, it’s secret code for “try harder”.
mervkwok & Jin Xian: Hormones! So is there any real feeling at all?
lyz: That sounds cute! Perhaps I should make it clearer then.
5. she avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. nor would you catch her stealing furtive glances at you. really, she’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 10:21 am
zaijian
29 comments

i promised i would refrain from commenting… i tried i really did :)
Seriously guys, get a hint. There really is no excuse. How can she respect you if youre not even wiling to look hard enough to see what shes really telling you?
Its not that hard, you just have to actually pay attention, and wow, things will start to make sense. Im not flaming anyone, but seriously, boneheaded? hormones? are these actually legitimate reasons for not getting a clue, when she says she not interested, to your face? lol :)
Please let the modern man evolve :) for the sake of us all hahaha
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 10:57 am
Veron
3439 comments

Well apparently it proves a challenge. That’s why I’m making it simpler by writing out explicitly these 5 things that I’m doing. I bet the guys would start looking out for these signs from now on *lol*
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 11:08 am
tyc76
6 comments

my bet would be the guys would think that you are referring to someone else…:p
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 11:28 am
Veron
3439 comments

…and you are absolutely right. How did you guess?
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 11:32 am
jupilier
14 comments

There are lines guys use that gals don’t seem to get either. I know of some:
1. You are such a beautiful girl, I am sure many other guys would like to go out with you.
2. You are lovely and there’s nothing wrong with you. I am just not the marrying kind.
3. I am a very detached person. I love my freedom.
4. Your horoscope says you will meet a handsome guy after valentine’s day.
5. I am going drinking with my mates in the pub. Chelsea playing tonite!
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 1:59 pm
Dating Specialist
5 comments

hahaha very interesting post. Though it’s short, but very straight to the point (erh, or in “his” face) :D
I think sometimes we can’t completely blame the guys, for they can be really confused by girls and wonder if she is just playing hard to get or she really isn’t interested or she’s just in a bad mood that day.
So girls, we need to do a reality check too. If you’re playing hard to get, then you should know where to draw the line.
As for the guys, yes you should also learn how to read a girl’s body language better, because that’s usually the one that tells you most, and most accurate too.
Lastly Veron, posting this is surely a good way to let “him” know your intention haha
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 2:53 pm
Veron
3439 comments

jupilier: Haha very informative! Interestingly I myself have used point #5 many times before *lol*
Dating Specialist: Haha you’re the girl to look for at times like this :)
Aiya, even if the guy had suspected that the girl was playing hard to get, my point #1 should suffice to throw that suspicion out the window already.
I thought that this post would send a clear message to him. but as what tyc76 said, he simply thought I was referring to someone else!
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Posted January 11, 2007 at 3:13 pm