Top 5 Signs That Tell You She’s Not Interested

By Veron | Posted in Ramblings

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Make that “100 percent not interested”. She feels nothing for you. None. Zero. Zilch. She never did, and she never will. These are five foolproof ways that a girl may be using to tell you to back off and leave her alone.

5. She avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. She’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.

4. She does not appear to be interested in the things you say. She lets you do all the talking. Her replies are simply “yes”, “no”, or more frequently, “uh-huh”.

3. She ignores your calls and messages.

2. She makes sure you are aware that she is seeing other guys.

And the number one sign…

She tells you straight to your face that she’s not interested in you, and backs it up with facts and reasons, letting you know exactly where you fall short (because you asked).

Jesus! What more can a girl do?

Okay I’m aware that I’m probably sounding a little bitchy right now. But frankly, the only thing that’s more annoying than a guy that wouldn’t stop going after a girl who’s clearly not interested, is a guy who wrongly assumes that she is.

Read the signs. Quit finding other reasons for her behavior. Please.

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Veron Ang is the founder and chief editor of Sparklette. She lives in Singapore and has dined and traveled across the world. She also runs Sparklette Studio, a web design and development firm. If you'd like to connect with her, head on over to the contact page or follow her personal updates on Twitter: @VeronSG.

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jupilier
January 10

does, ” I got a headache” count ?
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Huimei
January 10

*laughs and nod in agreement* lol. I can totally relate to sign number 2. haha. sometimes i just hope that guys can be a little smarter. opps.
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Veron
January 10

jupilier: It probably does. That’s always a good excuse isn’t it?
Huimei: Maybe that’s the reason why we’re not interested in the first place! Oops! *hides from the lightning strike*
My blog entry is actually targeted at a few specific people I know. *hides from lightning again*
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foldedhearts
January 10

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lostin
January 10

polite call:
Hey! I hope you gals have nothing against guys, why not do a post like “5 things Singapore gals like about local guys”? You know, just to boost the morale of Sg guys to set them going.
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Huimei
January 10

Hah! I could sense that the post was meant to target at someone. lol. As bad as I might seems to be (I’m not that evil), I think it would be rather hard to come up with the “5 things Singapore gals like about local guys”.
I do know of some really nice guys. But ask me what’s so great about them? I couldn’t figure out either.
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Veron
January 11

I shall reserve my comments for now. But anyway, would someone comply with his request please?
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DK
January 11

Allow me to defend the guys.
There are some gals who like guys that keep trying and never gives up. That why you see some guys who never gives up even ganna rejected again and again. Because we don’t know if you are that type or not.
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chillycraps
January 11

I think point number 1 is enough.
Just ask the guy to stop wasting everyone’s time and move on with life.
This kind of pestering pestering very irritating!
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mervkwok
January 11

Hehe forgive my kind. Most of us tend to be boneheaded when it comes to your species. It’s the hormones I tell you. Damn the hormones! :P
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Jin Xian
January 11

oooh yes its the hormones.
*shakes head*
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lyz
January 11

i tnk no. 5 may not be that accurate?
Cos sometimes if a person secretly likes someone especially for a more inhibited and reserved person (for some guys too), she/he tend to avoid eye contact with him/her. But if he/she(the person being liked) looks away, then she/he(the person liking) would steal glances at him/her.
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Veron
January 11

DK: I think for the persistence to pay off, there has to be at least a minute amount of interest on the girl’s part to start with in the first place!
Like I said, the girl feels absolutely nothing for the guy. There’s no attraction there. She doesn’t feel the spark. Persistence is simply a waste of time and effort on both parties.
Just my two cents.
chillycraps: Absolutely! But some guys may think that when the girls ask them to give up, it’s secret code for “try harder”.
mervkwok & Jin Xian: Hormones! So is there any real feeling at all?
lyz: That sounds cute! Perhaps I should make it clearer then.
5. she avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. nor would you catch her stealing furtive glances at you. really, she’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.
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zaijian
January 11

i promised i would refrain from commenting… i tried i really did :)
Seriously guys, get a hint. There really is no excuse. How can she respect you if youre not even wiling to look hard enough to see what shes really telling you?
Its not that hard, you just have to actually pay attention, and wow, things will start to make sense. Im not flaming anyone, but seriously, boneheaded? hormones? are these actually legitimate reasons for not getting a clue, when she says she not interested, to your face? lol :)
Please let the modern man evolve :) for the sake of us all hahaha
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Veron
January 11

Well apparently it proves a challenge. That’s why I’m making it simpler by writing out explicitly these 5 things that I’m doing. I bet the guys would start looking out for these signs from now on *lol*
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tyc76
January 11

my bet would be the guys would think that you are referring to someone else…:p
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Veron
January 11

…and you are absolutely right. How did you guess?
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jupilier
January 11

There are lines guys use that gals don’t seem to get either. I know of some:
1. You are such a beautiful girl, I am sure many other guys would like to go out with you.
2. You are lovely and there’s nothing wrong with you. I am just not the marrying kind.
3. I am a very detached person. I love my freedom.
4. Your horoscope says you will meet a handsome guy after valentine’s day.
5. I am going drinking with my mates in the pub. Chelsea playing tonite!
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Dating Specialist
January 11

hahaha very interesting post. Though it’s short, but very straight to the point (erh, or in “his” face) :D
I think sometimes we can’t completely blame the guys, for they can be really confused by girls and wonder if she is just playing hard to get or she really isn’t interested or she’s just in a bad mood that day.
So girls, we need to do a reality check too. If you’re playing hard to get, then you should know where to draw the line.
As for the guys, yes you should also learn how to read a girl’s body language better, because that’s usually the one that tells you most, and most accurate too.
Lastly Veron, posting this is surely a good way to let “him” know your intention haha
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Veron
January 11

jupilier: Haha very informative! Interestingly I myself have used point #5 many times before *lol*
Dating Specialist: Haha you’re the girl to look for at times like this :)
Aiya, even if the guy had suspected that the girl was playing hard to get, my point #1 should suffice to throw that suspicion out the window already.
I thought that this post would send a clear message to him. but as what tyc76 said, he simply thought I was referring to someone else!
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