Top 5 Signs That Tell You She’s Not Interested

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Make that “100 percent not interested”. She feels nothing for you. None. Zero. Zilch. She never did, and she never will. These are five foolproof ways that a girl may be using to tell you to back off and leave her alone. 5. She avoids your... Read more →

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birdface
January 11

haha… annoying guy hitting on you?

Well… time to hit back… the water splashing treatment would get top response… and fast too!!! especially when it happens all the time… hehe

of course… if he’s that much of a bonehead… he still may not get the idea… then it time to bring out the male ego.. let some OTHER guy handle him!

Once the rough action starts.. the message would get across… eventually… hehe

^)>
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DK
January 12

I know persistence is a waste of time if the gal has not even slight interest in the guy at all.

But from a guy’s point of view, you never know until you try.
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jupilier
January 12

but there again, to some, it is the chase that is the best part! :)
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chocoholic_in_rehab
January 12

i wonder if thats how stalkers justify what they do? :)
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ry
January 12

what if the girl really liked the guy before and now when the guy chases her she shows these 5 signs?
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Edmund
January 12

haha.. very interesting post.

Seems like alot of guys miss the point when pursuing a girl. Now, before i start, i’m no casanova or Fabio or pick-up artist..

It’s human nature that people like a challenge. Things which are too easy to get aren’t worth the effot. If the guy is acting all lovey-dovey, wussy or just plain smoothering the girl with affection, she’ll run off in the other direction. The law of Attracion says that we eventually receive what we think most about. Attraction is not logical, its an emotional response. Just like people go on spending sprees, they spend on impulse (emotion) but justify it with logic (which always loses out to emotion).

Anyway, the tip to all guys is to create the attraction in the first place.. abit of subtle mystery…
-If she’s curious to find out more, she’s thinking.. when she’s thinking, it increases the attraction.
Remember: ” We attract the things which we think most about”
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jupilier
January 12

Well said Edmund. The Law of Attraction is powerful. One of my postings:

http://jupilier.blogspot.com/2006/12/secret-behind-secret.html

talks about applying the Law of attraction. That is, the secret behind the secret. ;)
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Veron
January 12

“We attract the things which we think most about”

Shouldn’t it be “We are attracted to the things we think most about”?

Anyway about pursuing a girl, when the girl tells the guy to stop doing it, he should just listen. Otherwise it’s bordering on harassment.
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jupilier
January 12

Veron

The guy will then think of ‘it’ more, ie. the girl he is supposed to stop bothering. Hence making him more determined. Haven’t we heard that forbidden fruit is sweet? ;)
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Veron
January 12

Now, that’s just selfish don’t you think?
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Edmund
January 12

Hi Veron

yep, it works both ways.. “We are attracted to the things we think most about” and also “We attract the things which we think most about”.

The latter is gleaned from the movie “The Secret”
(thanks Jupilier for the link, it was profound & certainly gave me much more clarity)

It goes along the lines of ’cause and effect’ and how the universe responds to those who “ask” and you shall be given a “reply”..

Ed :)
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Anon.
January 12

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http://www.justjasmine.net/
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jupilier
January 13

veron
you think about these persistent boys so much that you even write a post about them. hmmm, i think you are attracting them to come back for more… ;)
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Veron
January 13

Okay, this entry was written out of pure annoyance and frustration due to annoying creeps and stalkers that are haunting me nonstop. In all fairness it is pretty hard not to think about them when they keep positioning themselves somewhere near you, or bombarding you with calls and messages. “We are attracted to the things we think most about” therefore does not apply here. I do not willingly think about them. Rather, they force themselves into my line of sight, the way stalkers do.

I can’t stress this enough. But I can’t believe anyone would still wanna argue after point #1:

“she tells you straight to your face that she’s not interested in you, and backs it up with facts and reasons, letting you know exactly where you fall short (because you asked).”

Would I ever be attracted to a stalker? No.

Would you ever be? I hope not.

Case closed.
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jupilier
January 13

Veron
I think you may have missed the point of what I was trying to say. Try watching THE SECRET. There are snippets on Youtube.

It short, it says that we will get what we think of. So, even you are not attracted to them stalkers, the fact that you detest them meant that you are thinking of them a wee bit too much.
Hence ‘attracting’ them to pursue you.

Conversely, if u dont think abt them, they will fade away. dont give them the power of ur thoughts.
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Manas
January 13

Lol! Nice one.. Are they really frank about Sign 1 ?

Manas
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Veron
January 14

Hey jupilier,

I ain’t gonna waste time watching any Youtube clip when I’m pretty clear about my point already. The last thing I need is for someone else whom I have never met before tell me what he thinks I am thinking/feeling. I think the one person in the world who would be clearest about that would be yours truly, thank you very much.

I tend to think that you’ve missed my point, as well as the point of this blog entry completely. If you know what stalkers are like, you probably wouldn’t be making senseless remarks like the ones you did. It’s a mental torture to have stalkers, you know? Say you have loan sharks hounding you, I bet you would be thinking of them “a wee bit too much” as well. Would you bear any attraction towards them? Maybe, if you are really, really, really sad and lonely.

I have filed police reports against such people before (stalkers, not loan sharks). That’s the extent of how much these sick people bother me. You obviously have no idea.

For now I would like to hear comments from other people, please.
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Edmund
January 14

G’day Veron

it’s unfortunate that we live in the information age today and people can find out almost anything about anyone online. Most times, that power is used to great effect (eradicating poverty, petitions, creation awareness and actions), but conversely you have experienced the negative side of it as well.

In the small rock that is Singapore, we have hardly any world-wide claim to fame (banning chewing-gum and hanging/caning foreigners doesn’t count). I guess blogging and being a demi-celebrity attracts all facets of society. The price of fame?
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tyc76
January 17

well how do i know..let’s just say i’ve met alot of different type of people. their traits and behaviour are quite similar. (depending the thickness of their skin)

if that guy’s condition is chronic one then u better take care of urself..
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Aristocrat
January 19

I think I can empathize with you. I got “stalked” before as well. Worse still, by a guy. @@
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