Top 5 Signs That Tell You She’s Not Interested
Make that “100 percent not interested”. She feels nothing for you. None. Zero. Zilch. She never did, and she never will. These are five foolproof ways that a girl may be using to tell you to back off and leave her alone.
5. She avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. She’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.
4. She does not appear to be interested in the things you say. She lets you do all the talking. Her replies are simply “yes”, “no”, or more frequently, “uh-huh”.
3. She ignores your calls and messages.
2. She makes sure you are aware that she is seeing other guys.
And the number one sign…
She tells you straight to your face that she’s not interested in you, and backs it up with facts and reasons, letting you know exactly where you fall short (because you asked).
Jesus! What more can a girl do?
Okay I’m aware that I’m probably sounding a little bitchy right now. But frankly, the only thing that’s more annoying than a guy that wouldn’t stop going after a girl who’s clearly not interested, is a guy who wrongly assumes that she is.
Read the signs. Quit finding other reasons for her behaviour. Please.
Jan 20, 2007
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Men has no monopoly over stalking. There is no gender bias. There are woman stalkers too.
Jan 20, 2007
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Aristocrat: That sounds like a real sticky situation! When women are stalked, they can always turn to their male friends for help. But what happens when a guy gets stalked?
michael: Everyone knows that there are both male and female stalkers. We’re just talking about stalkers in general.
Jan 20, 2007
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cool blog.. i stumble upon yrs and tot you did a well job done.
love the jewellery you did for yr mum.great idea.
hhmm.. mensa.. congrats gal.. will check that out.
Jan 24, 2007
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Nice website.
(How I stumbled upon your website. While I was googling up a topic on google. End up clickling one of the links which lead me to yours.)
– nice website layout.
– love the designs
– cute little images. lovely indeed.
– Frankly speaking abit light colour over all … I hardly can read? I have to stare longer to read.
Cheers! take care.
Regards.
Jan 26, 2007
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have been coming round pretty often .. love the music..
in this nature.. ok.. lady not interested??
then wat about if she is?? but she’ve been all pensive about it?
not every gal is straight forward.. would love a gal like that.. but
then being human would be nice and try to tactful.. so.. honestly.. would it
not be simpler if women were just a little more honest??cos honestly.. learning how to read body language.. is like some tall square hat pple who looked at books and studied.. “psychology” kind??
so.. if a guy is to study all that.. gosh.. time would have flew right by…
or worse still wat if one day you like him back.. but dare not say it.. cos you blew him off before??
hahaha..
just hypothetic..but.. BIG BIG BUTS do happen in out lifes.. btw wat do you do for aliving..??
Jan 29, 2007
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Hilarious stuff, but yes I’ve been stalked enough and it’s pretty scary. I’ve had to leave shows because of it. So many guys only want you when you don’t want them.
Feb 11, 2007
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Ok my situaution is a little different then normal but here i go…..
There’s this one girl, lets call her O, who i knew liked me from the start when i went to my new school because of the way she looked at me. At first i wasn’t really attracted to her and didnt’ really want anything to do with her. But after a while her friends got me talking to her. From the way we spoke and interacted it was clear that she had feelings for me and after a while her best friend, lets call her A, even told me that she was really digging me but at the time i wasn’t sure if i liked her much i just use to treat her as a friend and joked around with her. Time went by and i finally started becoming attracted to her so i asked her out, by that time i guess she had spoken and asked about me with her other friend (not the one that told me that she liked me, different girl lets call this girl B.) and K told her that she liked me as well. these three girls, O,A,B are fairly good friends, O and A are more close together. So when i asked out O which was maybe 2 months after i started talking to her, she said she couldn’t go out with me, she would feel bad. then i told her that well dont you like me your friend told me so, and she said that she did and then B told her that she did too so she thought it wouldn’t work out, her words were “so i thought, fuck it won’t work out” so she said then after B told her it started to fade away. After this i notice that, that same magic wasnt’ present in our conversations, like it was there sometimes but not as much as before. so more time went by. and in between this time we becamae firends more then guy and girl who were attracted to each other. so after a while we spoke alone again and i felt that same majic and i asked her out again, she said the same thing like, i liked you then B told me……., but i cut her off and said if you like me before you can like me again and asked if i asked her friend if it were ok for us to go out would she and she said “ok but i just know she’ll say no” so then i was excited cause i knew that girl would say it was ok and then me and O wuld hook up. but when it came time to ask her i think O told her to say no maybe, but when i asked B she said that O maybe doesnt want to go out with anyone right now, so she said just wait and let her see what is going through O’s mind. and that was the last i spoke with O and B and A. O stopped talking to me and we haven’t spoke for the last 2 months or so. we see each other at school and make eye contact, some times i feel she is attracted and some times i don’t. Plus when i asked her the 2nd time i even told her to her face that, “i think you do like me, i know there’s an attraction between us” and she didn’t say anything negative in return, just smiled and shyed away.
NOW, my question is should i still think that she still has some feelings for me which can be sparked again and we could make it happen or should i move on? out of those 5 things she has shown some at some point, but this situation is different, she use to really like me and would want to talk to me so badly before and her best friend even told me she liked me alot. How can you like a guy so much and then just have it fade away 100% ? especially when i feel i see it still in her eyes sometimes when i make eye contact with her. by the way i haven’t really tried talking to her, she told my friend that she’ll talk to me only if i talk to her. the ironic part is that i never thought i would ever like her, she was the last person i would ask out, was what i thought when i first saw her. funny thing is that i thought her friend, B, was cute at first.
Feb 11, 2007
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wow! This blog is becoming a place for people to spill their hearts! poor Veron, now you’ve become Aunt Agony by default :P
Okie, some tips to help the guys out there after reading Kendrick’s posting:
3 Tips For Keeping A Woman Attracted
The absolute most important prevention method is an understanding of female psychology and ATTRACTION.
1) Women are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.
Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for weak men.
Sure, if you chase a woman for long enough, and buy her enough things, she may “fall” for you. But in that case it’s not because she feels ATTRACTION for you. OHHHHH NO. It’s because she feels AFFECTION for you, and she confuses it with ATTRACTION.
So if your Inner Wussy has been taking the wheel, EVICT IT! Bitch-slap the Wuss out of yourself. Do it now.
2) Don’t be PREDICTABLE.
Predictability is a mortal sin when it comes to attraction. If a woman can guess what you’re going to do or say, you’re being predictable. If she CAN’T guess what you’re going to do or say, she’ll always be wondering…
Now, keep in mind that women are MUCH better at predicting behavior than men. So if you’re going to stop being predictable, then you’re going to need to LEARN how.
To begin with, PAUSE before you do and say things. Think about what you’d normally do, then DO SOMETHING ELSE. Throw in some crazy, off-the-wall stuff for good measure.
Predictable is BAD BAD BAD for business.
3) Don’t be BORING.
Boring is the bastard child of Predictable.
When you are SO predictable that NOTHING is new or different, then you are officially BORING. Boring is also the lack of adventure, passion, energy, humor, and ATTRACTION.
If you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you, then you must behave differently than if you want her to feel that “just friends” feeling.
In the world of ATTRACTION, things are completely different.
For instance, our moms taught all of us guys to “be nice” to women. This usually includes being sweet and complimentary when first meeting them, answering all of their questions directly, and giving them what they want when they want it.
But if you want a woman to feel that INSTANT GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION right from the beginning, then you’re going to have to put aside this kind of thinking, and start learning some NEW ideas.
For instance:
1) A challenge is generally attractive to women.
2) Teasing and being evasive is generally attractive to women.
3) Making fun of a woman’s appearance in a flirty way, as counter-intuitive as it might sound, can lead to ATTRACTION.
Hope that helps!
~extracted from David DeAngelo.
Feb 12, 2007
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Thanks Edmund, that does help but in my case which is very unusual, what should i do? like i don’t think i have a problem attracting women, thats why i attraccted two girls who were friends at teh same time.
Feb 20, 2007
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Thanks for the advice. But what would happen if it was vice-versa? Girl wants the boy. Or what happens when the girl likes the boy, and the boy likes the girl, but the boy won’t take the plate? Well, thanks anyway!
Feb 20, 2007
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claire
aiya, then girl takes the first step lor! :) Now 21st century liao leh!
Feb 20, 2007
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haha.. interesting comments. Its all about communication.
People seem to wonder and think about the “what if’s”… and continue to live their life hoping and thinking, and then end up regretting the things they did not do..
“its better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all”
In business, there’s a very common phrase called ‘Analysis till paralysis’.
Cut down the analysis, take the plunge, don’t be afraid of failure and rejection and in the slogan of Nike.. “Just Do It”
Feb 22, 2007
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ey buddaaaayyy, wat de rass dem gyal talkin bout?? ain’t no gyal gonn come up to ME an tell me to me face reasons y she dunn like me! raaasss… me da wan rudebwai, me da keeng! raaass…
Mar 7, 2007
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Yea but what if she does all the top 4 things and still tells you that she really likes you and has feelings for you?
Mar 7, 2007
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Then do the same 4 things to her and tell her the same! :)
Apr 27, 2007
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Well, I met a girl at my gym and we started chatting a lot at the gym and on the phone. We went out to dinner and things seemed great, then she stopped returning my calls and broke plans we had. I found out from her after a couple messages left from me and 3 days later when she did call me back that her x has started calling her again cause he wants her back ( hes a alcoholic mess).During this mess she had decided to leave the gym for another gym, She says she needs a life change but i know theres a guy she had a fling with in there now, he just joined. Well she says she doesnt care about anyone there or what they say. This girl used to party all the time like me but she has stopped that life style for atleast for sure the last 5 months, bye the way im 6 years sober, i was a drunk, lol. She tells me shes not going back with him x but the guys mom calls her and stuff and he keeps coming around to get all his stuf from her house, ( she still lives at home). I confronted her 2 days ago, i went to her house. Long story short, to late, lol. I asked a million questions and heres what i got. she hasnt been talking to anybody including best friends, shes says shes not going back with him . She told me she DOESNT ! want me to ” leave her alone or stop calling her” Just so you guys know i dont call everyday or stalker stuff, just normal calling maybe 2 times a week , in fact she was calling me more when this started! She says shes gotta figure it out for herself even though i offered help. Now she knows I like her cause When this first started I thought we were starting to date, she says she thought it was just a friend thing but she knows for sure i want to date her, she says shes not dating anybody its not me, ok fine i think maybe she needs time to get her head strait, i understand that but im wondering if shes interested or not for future dating ? hopfully not to long. If she is not attracted to me at all then wouldnt she tell me now, i mean she knows i want her? We have a lot in common, a lot but i dont know if she sees what i see. I just keep focusing on the fact she told me she DOESNT want me to stop calling etc. As of the other day i told her “well im gonna leave you alone for a while so you can mabye get things strait in your head, i really like this one and im willing to be patient, i figure id wait a week and a half til i call her, if she doesnt call me in the mean time. I dont know what to do, i dont wanna wait for her to get her stuff together more than a month cause she been broken up with the x loser since february of 07. By the way, she has been on and off with this screw since high school. Please anyone, especially the women, please let me hear your thoughts, let her rip ladies !! Just so everyone out there knows, when i was face to face talking to her i asked her and told her over and over, if you want me to leave you alone and stay away i will, it wont hurt my feeling, over and over i gave her a chance to get rid of me, very nicely and adult like to …..so????? HELP !!
May 12, 2007
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theirs this girl ive known for a couple years and she does the opposite of everything on your list. doesn’t look away or ignore my gaze.she does answer my calls and messages and sometimes calls me. i walk her to most of her classe and everything. she does alot of the talking and has fun with me. But she wont go out with me? explain that
May 13, 2007
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take it from an average guy.. when a guy asks a girl out on a date, and she rejects (for whatever reason), we generally take it as “try harder or another day”
number 1 is good enough.. you don’t have to give a reason, be straightforward and leave quickly. do yourself a favour if it gets annoying. and no, its not cruel..
we’d appreciate the straightforwardness.. its better than us trying to read the signs and hint.. i hate to say it but, yes we’re boneheads when it comes to that. and if you tell it to his face and he still doesn’t buzz off… well get some help.. you might have a stalker =s
May 14, 2007
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For men,those 5 signs is the signs for try plan B and don’t give up.
BTW here’s “What Women Don’t Know About Men”:
Men Are Less Romantic Than Women.
Men Cope With Breakups More Easily Than Women Do.
Men Never Feel Lonely.
Men Don’t Agonize Over Their Looks.
Men Are Insensitive
May 23, 2007
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Just an update. Well we didnt talk for 2 weeks so i called her and left her a message, didnt ask her to return my call. Then i called her a week later and said im gonna be at your door at 7pm on sat. to take you to dinner and im not taking no for an aswer…this was said jokingly about not taking no for an answer. Well sat. she called me at noon and after the normal chatting she said she cant its girls night out. The only info i have is she has spent tiime with a few friends so, I guess im not important to her anymore so i fugured after that call that im gonna make it worse if i dont leave for good so that moment i deleted her number outta my cell, so no matter what i cant call her. Its up to her cause i cant seem to win so i say fuck it, lol.