Top 5 Signs That Tell You She’s Not Interested
Make that “100 percent not interested”. She feels nothing for you. None. Zero. Zilch. She never did, and she never will. These are five foolproof ways that a girl may be using to tell you to back off and leave her alone.
5. She avoids your gaze and hardly makes eye contact. She’s happier looking down and around, at her food, at the surroundings, in fact anywhere else but you.
4. She does not appear to be interested in the things you say. She lets you do all the talking. Her replies are simply “yes”, “no”, or more frequently, “uh-huh”.
3. She ignores your calls and messages.
2. She makes sure you are aware that she is seeing other guys.
And the number one sign…
She tells you straight to your face that she’s not interested in you, and backs it up with facts and reasons, letting you know exactly where you fall short (because you asked).
Jesus! What more can a girl do?
Okay I’m aware that I’m probably sounding a little bitchy right now. But frankly, the only thing that’s more annoying than a guy that wouldn’t stop going after a girl who’s clearly not interested, is a guy who wrongly assumes that she is.
Read the signs. Quit finding other reasons for her behaviour. Please.
May 23, 2007
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Confucious said, “The man who gives up everything gets everything! ” :)
May 24, 2007
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To Someone, I feel your pain belive me, lol. It sounds to me like your in the dreaded friend zone. Honestly iv never been in the friend zone before so i dont know how to get out of it.
Just for the record I wanted to say that it seems like us nice guys always get screwed somehow ya know. I swear when i was in college I got so much play from the girlies at the bars it was amazing even to me and how I did it was I treated them like they werent important and I could take them or leave them, basically i treated them pretty bad, i used to tell them im just in it for sex nothing else and then the b.s. would ensue, lol. Now im ten years older but im in better shape and look way better but i lack the confidence i had when i was a drunk asshole, lol but since then iv grown up and stopped drinking so now im alone, lol.
Jul 24, 2007
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let me defend the guys we are similar to you girls nervous and just dont know what to do when we see a fine or cute girl/boy some are braver than others but most importantly when you girls give us signs we either dont see them or we are to shy or nervous to see them and what we tend to do is imagine our future with a cute girl rather than trying to find out if you like us or not what make our minds wonder if we like you or not is because you girls dont tell us and the ones that do we deny it because we cant get past what has happen in the past were we thought you liked us and we are sure that you like us because of what happen in the past
Aug 3, 2007
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sorry to revive this thread, but I’m also in a similar situation as Clark Griswold.
I met this young lady through work, she worked for one of my clients, but I really coulnt do much cause I didn’t want to jeopardize my job/clients & she felt the same. So we stop talking & she gets a different job elsewhere. 6mo. later we start talking again then go out for coffee & stuff like that. Finally we go out & both of us had a great time & she mentions that she hasn’t had “soo much fun” in a loong time. Everything was going great that evening well now past midnight that she busts out with that “Cinderella” line. Since then we really haven’t called each other & maybe email/text like once a week or so. Also she does the opposites of #’s 4 & 5.
I’ve been out with many girls but the majority of these girls I go out with are cool but like the have no ambition, future & cant picture themselves in 5/10 years from now, & this young lady is the complete opposite tho.
btw, getting tips from her former co-workers that she still talks to on a daily-weekly basis. Good thing or a NoNoo.
tnx in advance=-p
Aug 29, 2007
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I think if she’s showing all those signs above she’s just playing hard to get,if you keep pursuing her and keep putting your mind to it she’ll eventually have feelings for you and want to give in.
Aug 29, 2007
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Jackalack I don’t think so.either the feeling is there or it isn’t,when a woman decides it isn’t there it can never be even if you try with all your might,The way a woman feels is based on what she wants from a man and those feelings are associated with her conscience,and she can’t grow a conscience.So she can’t help not being interested anymore then she can help the colour of her skin or how tall she grows,So if you keep pursuing a woman that feels like that about you she’ll only get annoyed with you.I had a friend that pursued a girl for fifteen years and she kept making it clear that she only wanted to be friends with him but he laughed it off and just thought she was “playing hard to get”,and he even ignored the signs above I kept telling him to “back off It can never be”,but he still persisted, he kept saying “she’ll eventually grow on me”,but I told him “if you both were on a deserted island for a thousand years she still wouldn’t grow on you”,but he still didn’t listen,It took her getting married twice and dating other guys for him to realize it wasn’t going to happen,So now he’s in his early fifties and still alone, very sad.
Sep 9, 2007
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I agree with Jonathan,If she shows all those signs above she’s not playing hard to get,she’s playing hard never to get,I can’t see how that girl put up with the same guy pursuing her for fifteen years,He’s lucky he didn’t get locked up for stalking her.If the figures don’t add up on paper then they’re not going to in reality but some people keep trying anyway,They don’t take time out to see if it has potential,they think that if they think positive it will happen by magic.Some “guys”think they know better, better then the people that have been there and done that,better then the love doctors or professionals,very doubtful.pursuing a woman that’s showing all those signs above,with confidence and a positive attitude is like trying to start your car without gas,”I’ll keep trying to start it even though it has no gas in it,If I keep trying with a positive attitude and confidence it’ll start.”But in reality you’ll run down every battery and burn out every starter in the world before it starts.So if she’s showing all those signs,It has no potential,you’ll die before she goes out with you.
Sep 10, 2007
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New Update ! Well its been i dont even know , maybe 4 months since i last saw the gym girl i like. I found out through casual conversation that this girl starts dating guys and within a week to 2 she has then vertually moved in to her parents house, mail change of address and all. Someone pointed out to me that its possible she dedided not to puruse me or let me pursue her because im a man and not a boy, meaning im independent and i would never semi-move into anyones house but mine, let alone a women who lives with her parents. I also found out all her past boyfriends were big time losers. I think maybe she was attracted to me subconsciencely because im an alcoholic but when she discovered that I am in control and not drinking that maybe it was a turnoff somehow. What is really amazing to me is I decided to trust this girl at her word…about her cleaning up her act so to speak, no more partying and even though I knew deep inside that she was full of shit like most women, sorry ladies but thats my experience in my life so far..no offense I actually feel good that I let myself trust a woman again. Im trying not to sound like a woman hater, lol but all the women i have come in contact with in my life are always confused about everything and never know what they want in life or love, they say they do but when they get it, its not enough. Seems to me the biggest concern with women is money, they dont care how a guy is as long as he has coin and that you ladies cannot defend all you have to do is open your eyes to see , its all around you. The bald fat man with a corvette always has a hot young girl with him. I just wonder if there are any real women out there. I mean a woman who wants a man who works for a living and is caring and honest and stays in shape and is faithful, cause thats what i am and it never works out, nice guys always finish last. I also wanted to add that im not concerned with this girl anymore for dating, i still think of her as a friend but i came back here to add this cause i got an email from this website, lol so i figured why not update, oh and i found a new girl at the gym, this one is only 23 and im 36 so we shall see soon if she likes older guys. Oh ya before i forget, if any of you ladies out there want to tell me I am having no luck cause the girls im trying to date are to young..well that is true but there are no women my age that are single and if they are they are man haters with horrible attitudes and almost 99% of the time FAT, sorry but its true. Im a bodybuilder and in fantatic shape so im not gonna settle for that.
Sep 13, 2007
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here’s an update on my deal,
A lil over a month has passed & nothing, but then again I’ve been on vacation & had 2 wknd getaways since I 1st posted here.
Earlier this week was my bornday & I got calls from my ex’s, ladies Ive met in bars/clubs/gyms/etc wishing me a happy bornday but I got no calls/emails/texts nothing from her. I guess its pretty much safe to say I should move along, right?
I really want to get to know this young lady much better, but the 1st 4 years of her line of work (business) is a “dog eat dog world” & she’s already gone thru her 1st year too. Also I don’t want to end up like Jonathan’s friend either.
btw, my clients, where I met her, I pretty much don’t do business with them no more & I know she still has close ties to her former bosses, but I’ll be going there this week to pickup bday gift & they also have some “non work related” stuff to discus with me. I have no clue what this non work related stuff can be, but I have a feeling that the young lady in question is a topic that might be discussed.
Once again, like Griswold :I’m in that “well I don’t know’ stage too, lol.
btw, I met this other young lady last night at a local comedy club, & since then I cant get the young lady outta my mind, kinda nuts huh, lol.
well, take care all & we will see what happens =-D
one last thing, someone I know (sleezebag kinda guy) told me to google her name & see what “pops-up” but it dont feel right.
Should I, or is that another No-Noo aswell?
to me it feals kinda “stalker-ish” dont ya think.
Sep 23, 2007
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Yeah I agree with the hard to get thing,If she shows all those signs then she is playing hard to never get,If she’s playing hard to get,she’ll at least call you back every couple of times you call her and she’ll also still want to be around you every once in awhile,If she consistently keeps saying no to your invites and says “I’m really busy or crazy busy”,then there isn’t enough chemistry to make time to see you,I knew one woman that worked 12 hours a day,seven days a week that had 2 kids and elderly parents and animals to take care of and she still saw her man almost every night,If she says really busy,she’s telling you a crock of shit,So once not interested always not interested,whenever she decides that she is not interested it’s pretty much a done deal.
Sep 24, 2007
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Star Searcher is 100% correct, no matter how you analize and debate every little detail, if she likes you she will find the time, period!! This is also a small update, the new girl at the gym, well i introduced myself to her and talked with her for awhile, i just feel so old compared to her, shes in college and only 21, lol. I dont know if shes interested but only time will tell, I want to ask her out but i feel so stupid cause of the age difference. I dont know what im going to do as of now but I well talk with her next time i see her. I was happy to see that when she came in the gym after the first time we introduced ourselves that the first thing she did when she walked in was smile and waved at me, so who knows ?
Jan 30, 2008
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Update!, the 21 year old at my gym never called me but we still talk at the gym, i dont really care and as far as the other girl, well she went awal again so i left her a message telling her off, ya she deserved it, i had enough. Iv come to the conclusion that women today just aint shit any more, bad parenting and no morals breeds nutty women. If there are any decent women out there, well i cant find them. Listen up guys and listen good, if you have doubts about a girl, let her go, forget it, no women is worth any heartache, there all fucked up big time. If your just lookin for sex, use a hooker, if your lookin for love, psh, it doesnt exist anymore, to bad for us real men, not players, MEN ! Women now days cant be trusted, there worse than guys in all aspects, thanks to baby boomer parents the US atlest is full of jerry springer sluts :) On a more positive note, I have a “friend” in my building, shes turning 19 soon, lol. Well hay, shes worth a shot, she hasnt been corrupted mentally by fucked up american parents , shes from Sebia so she might be worth some effort. They seem to be getting younger around me, lol.
Apr 5, 2008
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why be so upset when one window is closed while other windows are opening? girls, if you really dislike any of your suitors, just tell it to him…dun have to give reasons like “i got my personal reasons”. i mean WTF are ur personal reasons? just make it plain clear to him. giving hints arent that convincing. dont u think? everyone can make friends. anyway…just start a new game and be smart next time when you had a new player(s) to play all your plans with.
SMART UP!!
Aug 15, 2008
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omfg how about just telling us i mean its not that hard u think were dumb cuz we cant read your mind wtf!>=( if your so smart just tell them no u dont want to date and fucking stop trying to give them hints
Oct 14, 2008
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ok so i can relate to this topic. i have a question. i like this one girl who talked to me for a while in school. but when i mesg her on myspace she almost never responds. is this a sign of her rejecting me?
Feb 1, 2010
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what I hate is the type of girls who are not really interested in you, but let you on anyways just for the fun :(
Aug 25, 2011
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You are right David, few girls just let you on for fun or something its better to ask them if you feel that you are wasting their time and don’t give a sec for them.
May 31, 2010
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I totally agree with all that. well what about ignoring texts and calls sometimes that is related to hard to get?
Jun 1, 2010
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I have read a lot on here and you ladies all have one thing in common, you don’t seem to just tell the guy the truth. You ladies out there need to realize that most guys don’t pick up on subtleties, just be honest for a change. If you are not interested just say , hey your really nice but i am not interested in dating you, no offense your not my type. That would be the end of it.
Aug 25, 2011
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I feel this 5 signs are right, I just understood I am a big stupid why I am wasting my time going behind a girl for 10 months and eating pains. I just had a feeling that she interested in me but at the same time she was throwing all this signs. I almost lost confident in love. It was 100% sincere but now I feel its a bullshit. Next time this mistake will not happen again. I by heart this signs again and again myself.
Oct 24, 2011
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Come on guys,if it takes all this time and energy and all these signs to find out that a single and untaken woman doesn’t like you in that “way” then they must have the IQ of a brick.If she likes you and she knows that there’s even a chance that you like her back then believe me,she won’t waste any time letting you know,she might play hard to get for a little while but even then she’ll show some subtle hints like,touching,calling you every once in awhile.If you’re having to seek her out from months to years on end then you’re wasting your time.Thinking that she’ll eventually become interested or suddenly develop those feelings for you is just a pipe dream that’ll lead you nowhere.There are documentated cases where women have become interested over a long period of time.But those are very few and very far between,like a 1 in 100,000,000 chance.If she doesn’t show almost immediate interest in you.Then move onto someone else.Why would any respectable man wait around for years to see if someone would grow on them if they have other women showing them interest? Sheesh!
Oct 28, 2011
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Well said Franklin!If any respectable woman is the least bit interested in you,it shouldn’t be that hard to get ahold of her on the phone.Most women I see these days have their phones glued to their hips and usually answer it on the first ring when someone calls them,like you said if a man gives her a little bit of a hint that he likes her she might play hard to get but not for long.but even then you won’t have to call her and call her to reach her and she’ll show other signs of interest when said guy sees her.Persuing a woman when she’s not interested hoping she might suddenly become interested or grow on you is a bad life policy.Don’t waste your time chasing someone that won’t give you and interest.No woman should be that hard to get if she likes you.The signs that are listed here not only shows she’s not interested,they also show she can’t stand the said guy persuing her.These are things women shouldn’t do to men they hate never mind a man she’s interested in.